Our relationship
started out strong. The first 13 years went by with no problem.
Everyone was happy and we were both able to do what we wanted without
a problem. Around year 13 we started having some issues.
Professionals were called in to help, but they could only offer
temporary fixes and nothing really seemed to be resolved. Even so, we
managed to stay together for another 10 years. We learned to work
together to make things easier on one another and we had our good
periods and we had our bad periods.
It wasn't until that
fateful day in July that things got bad. We had just had a thrilling
vacation in Germany and hiking the Swiss Alps. We even went skydiving
a few weeks before with my dad and his new relationship. Things were
looking good, but I must have been too demanding and he unwilling to
bend. Out of nowhere he decided to break things off. I was crippled
and did not expect it at all. I needed support from my friends and
family just to function. I was in pain and it took a while before I
could start to heal. Fortunately I was able to start a new
relationship a mere 10 days later, thanks to someone for setting us
up.
Things were rocky at
first and it took awhile before we could really get our feet on the
ground. It took a bit of learning to see how far we could stretch
each other and it wasn't easy. He had just gotten out of a
relationship too, so it took awhile before we could really get
attached to one another. I was still recovering from the rough blow I
had just endured and I had to recover from that before I could really
progress with this relationship. Slowly progress was made and our
relationship eventually started getting stronger with the help of
those around us. Six months in and things finally became real. We
were able to do the things we loved together, but it was still new
enough that we had boundaries. I kept limitations on our relationship
to ensure things stayed strong, but I must have trusted things too
much. Not even two years after we met, I let the limitations go and
pushed him too far. It was only a slight nudge but it was enough for
him to call things off as well.
I had been here before,
so I knew what to expect, but I was even more upset because I thought
this had been the one. I had been so careful and one mistake ruined
it all. We even had a big trip planned together and were supposed to
leave in a few weeks. It got me thinking about what I was doing wrong
and if I should change things about my lifestyle to keep my
relationships lasting for good.
Fortunately I was set
up again by the same person and was back in a new relationship in a
weeks time. I was super careful this time and held back on doing some
of the things I normally did until things were stronger. I was no
stranger to new relationships at this point, so I recovered much more
quickly. I was able to go on the trip I had planned with the previous
break up and take my newfound relationship with me. Things were still
tender, so I held off on doing many things I thought might push the
limitations. I still had fun and was able to look past the previous
relationships. We still have our rough patches and issues from the
first relationship are still there, but things are getting better and
I have learned enough to hopefully keep things strong this time.
Things are looking good and I am proud to say, Happy One Year
Anniversary ACL #3.
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